Don't let THIS happen to you...
Allow me to tell you a story that could have had a TERRIBLE ending. Thankfully, the ending of this story is humorous, but there is an important lesson to be learned. This past weekend kicked off my wedding season. Thankfully, I was able to ease into it by second shooting with one of my favourite boss ladies. We arrived at the venue and she went off with the bride and I with the groom. The bride's father was hanging out with the guys and once we got through the groom and groomsmen photos, I got a few photos of him with his son, who was one of the groomsmen. Shortly thereafter, a lovely lady came up next to the father, and I quickly learned that that was the bride's mother. I suggested we get some photos of the two of them since we had the time. As they got into position, I noticed that they were a bit stiff, so I suggested that she place her hand up on his chest. They giggled, and she obliged. I then prompted the father to wrap his hand around her waist. At this point it was too much for the two of them, and they erupted in laughter. Naturally, I was a little confused, but they quickly explained that they were DIVORCED! Imagine my horror and embarrassment (especially since my next instruction included a big ole smooch!) They explained that it was totally fine, and that they are the best of friends. They then proceeded to tease me the entire day, running over to playfully touch each other when they knew I had my camera pointed their direction. The whole day was a beautiful celebration, and everyone laughed and danced the night away.
I hope everyone reading this understands how drastically wrong this scenario could have played out. How many divorced couples do you know like the ones I described above? If you’re like me, the answer would be none (well, now, 1.) Brides, I can not stress enough how important it is to send your photographer a list of any family dynamics that need to be known! This allows the photographer to know if there are any divorces, separations, or tensions within the family that they would have no way of knowing about otherwise. If there is ANY family dynamic your photographer needs to know about, TELL them! We have never met your family before, and will have no idea that Aunt Suzie and brother Jimmy had a falling out or mom and step-mom don’t see eye to eye. If you think we need to know, share! Even if mom and dad are divorced but get along great like the parents described above, tell us! This will go such a long way in keeping your big day stress free!
Photographers, make sure you ask your brides these tough questions! If you are the lead photographer, be sure and share this information with your second shooter. You two make not be able to touch base in depth the day of the wedding, so email them any information you have! For photographers who are second shooting, make sure to ask your lead photographer! They have A LOT on their plate and it may slip their mind to tell you. Be proactive and touch base with them before things get hectic. This way, no one is caught off guard and you aren’t caught in the uncomfortable situation of being the person that stuck feuding family members together!
As we rock and roll into the 2017 wedding season, I wish everyone a truly happy and joyous season. Cheers!